Have you ever noticed how rejection prevents some people from trying again, while others recover stronger than before, much faster? We all experience the sting of rejection, but there are people who use that pain to strengthen and improve themselves.
Whether you were excluded from an engagement, a relationship, or you were not chosen in a promotion, rejection hurts. However, how you choose to respond to rejection could determine part of the course of your future. Here are 10 ways mentally strong people overcome rejection:
1.- Your emotional health is just as important as your physical health
Learn to divert attention from your negative thoughts. Remember what you have and what you enjoy, no matter how small or insignificant they may seem.
2.- Postpone worrying times and suppress thoughts
Unconsciously what we do is fight against these thoughts and many times the effect that this fight produces, in addition to wearing you down emotionally, is an increase in these negative thoughts.
Postpone thoughts of everything that happened at specific times of the day and set a time limit (approximately 20 minutes). Stick to those times to reflect on what happened. If you find that your thoughts drift to the issues of your breakup at other times of the day, stop them in their tracks. Don’t let your thoughts get stuck in a negative loop.
3.- Pay attention to your feelings during that established time
Low morale is normal! Limiting how long you are depressed is not easy, but you can learn to deal with difficult feelings. Rejection means that you have suffered a loss and it is important and necessary that you accept your sadness and learn to deal with it.
Start re-committing to all the things you used to enjoy, even if it seems like an effort. Or start something completely new: a new hobby, become a volunteer, start a course (there are some really great online courses).
4.- Do not isolate yourself for a long time
Isolating yourself is a symptom of depression , and it occurs when it occurs after a breakup. You don’t want contact with anyone and… even if that was helpful initially. When you feel lost and rejected, the ideal is to be surrounded by people you know and support you.
5.- Do not take antidepressants
You have to know that the feeling of loneliness you have is normal under the circumstances. On some occasions, the sadness about a breakup can become so serious that it drifts. If you decide to take antidepressants, make sure you understand the risks of taking them.
Accepting that you are grieving for any loss you have suffered is a normal reaction.
6.- How to get someone out of your head with the help of hypnosis.
You may not be able to release and end your ex’s memories and thoughts. Hypnosis can ease the transition through the abrupt outlook of the breakup. Hypnosis is useful to overcome or alleviate the discomfort generated by the breakdown of relationships.
Hypnosis using suggestions, visualizations, reframing and other resources allows you to change the irrational and distorted patterns of your thinking. After a hypnosis session it is possible to see the other person as he really is and to feel himself with a clearer and clearer mind, enjoying more freedom. Recovering the illusion to continue life, making plans and setting new goals.
7.- Nature calls you. You will be amazed at what nature can do for you
Take a walk in the field, sit with your back against a tree, or lie down on the grass or beach. Make an effort to notice by smelling the flowers and wildlife, feel connected to the world around us. Nature is wise and the calming powers of the natural world should not be underestimated.
8.- Write letters that “will never be sent”
Forget about capitalization, spelling and grammar, just type! It can help to put things in perspective when you take them out of your head and put them on paper.
Or getting involved writing a diary as a relief is an effective coping method because it “allows the child in us to act, but in a constructive way.” (be sure to destroy the letters or keep them in a safe and inaccessible place to avoid accidentally sending them or having someone read them)
9.- Talk: the best healing therapy
Talk to trusted family or friends or find a good professional: you can connect with an expert coach in romantic relationships.
10.- Do not unleash your pain and anger on social networks.
You will most likely regret doing it when you have calmed down, and your friends may not make it easy for you to forget and move on. Be kind to yourself, you have to know that you are much stronger than you think. Once those intense emotions fade, you’ll be in a much better position to find solutions. So, promise yourself that you won’t punish yourself.